I was taught not to take compliments, nor criticism too seriously. What does that mean? Well, basically it means that when people are criticizing you, you should really let it roll off your back as much as you are able. Most criticizm is done in a such a way that it does not really improve the situation, or the performance of the person being criticized, but just makes the target feel badly.
Compliments are no different. When you are complimented it feels very good at that moment, but is nearly as short lived as the criticism. When being complimented, simply learn to say thank you and move on. If you try too long to revel in it, it will be much harder when you come down from that high.
One important point to remember as well, is that all it takes is one bad moment, what I call an “aw shit” to wipe out ten compliments, or what I like to call “an attaboy”.
Why is that?
I think it is because mistakes often invoke anger, and an air of superiority over the person having made the mistake. The idea that people make mistakes is a known fact, but for some reason we seem to forget it and become angry when humans do what is normal for them – to be human. Unfortunately, it is much harder to forgive the mistake in the moment, than it is to simply criticize it.
So, never forget that one bad moment will wipe out ten very good ones.
Mike
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